Women tend to invest a lot in a relationship; we put our heart and soul into it. We trust blindly, care immensely, and love boldly. We don’t put ourselves first when we are genuinely in love. My friend fell in love with a man who treated her wrong in so many ways. She trusted him and gave him everything she had. She refused to look past the fake box of perfection she had created for herself. Her idea of a perfect relationship was petty and shallow. She didn’t realize the wrong she was doing to herself; until she was finally out of the link.
Men want to be selected by a strong and independent woman; the kind of woman who knows her worth respects herself and knows how to make people respect her. The moment a woman learns self-respect, she gains the ability to evaluate her relationship better. She prepares herself to leave the man she loves because she knows that her love for this man was for the wrong reasons. Every meaningless thing suddenly starts to make sense.
Here are some of the reasons that make women leave the men they love.
- Lack of common interests is not a good sign
Okay, before I say anything, I want you to know that people change with time. It might be you, or it might be your partner. It is very accurate that negatives attract, but you both should have some common interests. If you transitioned, it’s not necessary that your partner transitioned along with you. It was these common interests that initially helped you both bond; their absence will have a drastic effect on your relationship.
Any girl would be left questioning her decisions. My friend’s ex used to adore so many things about her, but she told me that by the end of the relationship, he started to disapprove of almost everything she did as if she were inclined to please him.
- Lack of communication will kill you
Women need someone to talk to, it’s impractical for a guy to be by her side all the time, but if you are absent most of the time, you are giving her one less of a reason to hold on. If you are not with her every time she needs you, it’s like practically asking her to move on. My friend’s ex would be absent for days without any explanation.
And by ‘being there,’ I also mean that you need to be mentally present. You need to “listen” to her, not just nod your head at everything she says. Pay attention, become a valid part of the conversation, and make the conversation lively. That’s the only way you can strengthen communication between the two of you and will make your relationship great.
- Physical Intimacy is veryВ essential
Women need just as much physical intimacy as men. If you stop making sexual advances or are not taking care of her needs, she is probably going to think that there is someone else who is taking care of your desires for you. She is probably going to feel unwanted and worthless, which will be very damaging to your relationship. Being physically intimate says a lot of things without the usage of words. Yes, not everyone who gets laid is in love, but love is the number one reason people have sex.
If you care about your partner and their needs in bed, they will have an assurance that your relationship is something worth holding on to and there is some spark left between you two. And I’m not talking about lust here. Lust can only survive for a while; love stays forever. You can only feel desire for someone for so long, and then it will go away, and you won’t be attracted to them anymore. When you love someone, you are more attracted to them, naturally.
- Selfishness takes over
You are more invested in activities that please you, the less time you give her, the more distorted she starts to feel about the relationship. We, women, want to be a priority; we don’t want to be treated as a convenience. If you’re going to be left alone, she will show resistance to a sure extent, after that she will seriously consider that you should be left alone for good. There is no “I” in a relationship. Remember, a link is an amalgamation of things, connected, giving you both reasons to hold on to one another. If these connections don’t exist anymore, your lady will no longer feel inclined to stay by your side.
The biggest thing a woman needs is assurance and security. If you aren’t fulfilling your promises and not putting effort into your relationship, it will pull her apart bit by bit, to a point where she wouldn’t want to commit anymore and will probably look around for a new romance. A woman, unlike girls, doesn’t believe in fairy tales. She is a practical person, and even though she would be very much in love with you, she would run out of reasons to hold on, and when she does, she will walk away.
Insecurities act like slow-acting-poison and slowly kill any relationship from the inside. When a person is insecure, they project a sure negative vibe towards others. Danger doesn’t go a long way, and it can only make you lose people. When a woman feels like her man is insecure, it’s a huge turn-off. A man should have faith and trust in her woman, he shouldn’t be snooping around, and he shouldn’t be asking her a million questions every day.
If you’re THIS insecure with the person you love, it just means that you don’t like them, love comes with trust and trust kills insecurities. Learn to trust your partners! I, too, used to be an insecure person, and it caused me nothing but hurt throughout my relationship. I was immature, and my immaturity made me hesitant with every little thing my partnerВ did, and that drove them away from me.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé